Having these two little bunnies growing up together close in age is so much fun. Seriously. I know lots of moms who have littles with a much smaller gap, but considering Michael is a full 8 years older than Mason, the 2 and a half year gap between these two seems tiny, to us.
Mason seems to be a pretty well adjusted middle child and is quite happy to slot in and play big boy stuff with Mic and can just as easily play happily with little Mika. This is a huge win for me.
I often get asked how I cope and get through school / activities / playtime with all three boys everyday. Let me just stop you right there. I don’t. Not everyday, at least. Somedays go so smoothly and we are super productive and get through almost a whole weeks worth of activities in one morning and then other days I’m just lucky that everyone is dressed.
It can’t be all rainbows and unicorns everyday. Well not in my house, anyway. Somedays the 3 year old isn’t in the mood, or the baby didn’t sleep well the night before and is grouchy, or Mic has a homeschool social event or I have to desperately run
out of the house screaming to the store for milk or dog food (these are the two items we ALWAYS need urgently.)
BUT. On a good day… On a glorious day when I get to start the day with a hot shower, strong coffee and a bible reading on the mat with all my bunnies sitting close – those days, we get to accomplish a lot.
We are very lucky to have a dedicated schoolroom. Everyone has their own little spot to do activities / lessons and we have a large foam mat in the corner where we do a lot of together activities. The boys LOVE it when I grab a puzzle, a pile of books, coloring in things, building blocks, lacing activities – anything – and always come running to join mommy on the mat. And somehow they happily sit together and it just works. This makes it possible for Michael to do his reading out loud, or practice his memorizations or discuss his science questions while I am able to be involved and keep littles busy. It’s a great little trick to keep all of them happy.
My long winded post comes down to this :
1. Try and start every day the right way. When there is consistency in our mornings, our days are effortlessly smooth and productive. My boys need routine, it makes them feel in control. I need to give them that.
2. Mommy participation is essential. If I had to chuck a few activities at my littles, they would never co-operate. But sitting with mommy and doing things together is THE BEST FUN EVER. I remind myself daily that I might blink and these moments will be distant memories I cherish as I watch my highschoolers do algebra at their desks and wish for a snuggly boy or two on my lap at story time.
3. Let them be little. If my boys are not feeling it, and would rather be riding their bikes outside, playing pirates on the jungle gym, building LEGO or watching a movie together in the lounge, I let them. We ditch the activities or the books and we move on. They are so little and learning happens constantly. I want them to play forever.
This season of my life where I get to mother and teach, kiss the booboo’s and cuddle on the couch while teaching my boys to be the best they can be is better than I could have ever imagined. I want to savor and enjoy every day as much as I possibly can.